Friday, October 16, 2009

I'm a Horrible Wife...

...seriously, 4 days after our one year anniversary and I've failed as a wife. Last night, Matt went to a banquet and I went to the Painted Pot with a friend. When I got home at about 8:30pm, I left both phones in the car. About 9pm, I see Matt pull in the driveway and come inside. He told me he was worried about me because he'd been calling and I didn't answer. I tell him I'm okay, we talk briefly about the banquet he was at and then he heads out.

Fast foward to 11pm...For some reason, I couldn't fall asleep. I'm usually out like a baby about 9:30pm or earlier so I heard Matt come in. I start talking to him and realize he's not responding, I sit up and look at him and he's near tears. I go into panic mode-what's wrong? are you okay? He just nods and is like I don't want to tell you this...great, another speeding ticket I'm thinking. Nope...worse...his truck slipped out of gears, rolled down a hill and hit a tree. He said he'd tried to call me and didn't get ahold of me at this point, I...feel...awful! I'm a horrible, bad wife. I ALWAYS take my phone in at night but last night since I got home later, I told myself oh its late...no one will call. Now I know I will ALWAYS take my phone in. I absolutely feel like I'm the worst person in the world...

So for the next couple of hours (think bedtime around 1am and alarm waking us up at 5:45am), we figured out our game plan and I feel pretty good about the couple we came up with. We might be down to one car for the next couple of weeks (or month) and we'll be adding to our debt but we'll be okay.

It just totally sucks because literally Wednesday evening (the night before this), Matt and I had this discussion about his truck and he was going to take it in next week to get it checked and we agreed that we'd try to get the truck to last until February 2011 NOT October 2009. We were finally get ahead on some of our debt and then this. Seriously, if its not one thing then its another, two steps forward and one step back...GRRR!!!

To end on a positive note, I'm going to tell you the good things, or not so bad, that came out of this. As a married couple, this is probably one of the first "big" decision and issue that we've had. I would say that we handled it very well. We sat together calmly, discussed without interrupting each other and didn't place blame on each other. I'm very proud of us...especially me because I have the tendancy to fly off the handle about the smallest things (such as drinking all the milk and leaving a millimeter in the jug for three days because he's "leaving some for me"). Secondly, if this were to happen, it happened at the right place and right time...no one was involved or hurt, nothing else was damaged and he made it home safely. Lastly, even if we get down to one car, our work places are maybe 10 minutes away from each other and I actually pass by the nursery every day on my way to and from work so it really won't be that bad. I just thank God for everyone and everything being okay, I just hope He helps us out in the next couple of weeks to stay patience and work things out.

7 comments :

fah said...

That really stinks, but I'm glad no one was hurt. I had a car the slipped out of gear and rolled into a fence once. It's a little scary because all the sudden your car in another place, you don't know how it got there, and you can only be grateful that no one was hurt. Good luck with everything!

Cecilia said...

Girl, you are NOT a bad wife! I am relieved that your hubby is okay. You are much more cool than I am. I would have freaked the heck out.

Randall @ Happy For This Moment said...

You are not a bad wife at all, those things happen to everyone. Glad you all worked it out!

Meredith said...

Even though we're all thankful that there weren't serious injuries, the situation still sucks, and I'm sorry you're having to deal with it.

But good for you guys about handling it and talking it out so calmly!

Mrs. Dirnberger said...

YOU are NOT a bad wife..I have been reading for a while and I know you are marvelous

Angie said...

I agree, you're not a bad wife, and kudos to you too for working it out. I hate when unexpected things happen that cost lots of money. I guess that's life huh?

Angie said...

You are def not a bad wife! and I understand money issues - two weeks before our wedding we had to buy a new car b/c my engine blew up in it - was trying to save on to it until October 2009 but with a blown engine we just couldn't. Then we had to replace the 3 shower walls in my old house - on top of paying for a wedding! Things are still rough for us but every day we are making a comeback. We've gone without a lot of things but it will get better. Love you!